say yes, & then say yes again.
love what you love, with no apologies required.
give yourself grace.
start over when you need to—or even just when you want to.
leave the lights on for yourself.
choose tenderness. choose love. choose courage. over & over again.
wish them well & let them leave.
read more: always & always.
stop trying to be cool & interesting, start trying to be curious & kind.
remember that sometimes you win & sometimes you learn, & these are equally valid.
don’t try to figure it all out at once.
understand it is possible to be both gentle & savage.
actively cut toxic people, actions, worldviews out of your life.
travel. see the world. see everything.
stop searching for love in all the places you lost it.
find a balance between work & rest.
listen to your heart when it tells you enough is enough.
understand that you are not defined by your trauma.
soak in sunlight.
know your limits.
financially support small, ethical, & independent businesses.
always go on walks.
stop using your illness as an excuse for cruelty towards the one you love.
forgive ceaselessly, generously, fathomlessly.
allow yourself to be forgiven.
let it be.
bloom without them.
p.s. happy new year, doves. 2019 has come & she already feels so bright & gentle & good; if you’re in a different timezone, i can’t wait for you to meet her too. i’m trying to spend this year letting go of the things & people & memories that weigh me down, that keep me from flight. perhaps you could join me.